dating tips for men: Dating can be a tricky business! What should you wear? Where should you meet? How much should you say? Who should pay? How soon after your date should you call? There are endless questions that can spin around your head before, during and after a date.
so here are some dating tips for men, to help make sure your date is an ultimate success!
no 1. First impressions are always important
Your ripped jeans may be lucky, but remember, this will be the first impression your date gets of you. Yes, you should never pretend to being someone that you’re not, but a girl likes to see that you take pride in your appearance! Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean you need to wear a full tuxedo, but having a shower, shave, using aftershave and putting on something smart,
will go a long way to impressing your date and getting you off to a good start. Now all you have to worry about is turning up on time!
no 2. Make date plans for somewhere you’ll feel comfortable
You might think that you’re being a gentleman by letting your date decide where you go on your date, but women often like to see that you can take control. Women love surprises too! Plus, as dating can be a daunting experience, help cut through those nerves by arranging to meet up in familiar territory. This will help make you feel more comfortable. Although, maybe avoid your normal Saturday night pub, as bumping into your mates could be a little distracting and might not go down too well with your date.
no 3. Be confident
Everyone’s nervous on a first date, but there’s nothing more attractive than a bit of self-confidence. When it comes to conversation, stay in your comfort zone by coming up with a few topics that you can talk about easily so you’re not out of your depth too early. But it’s a delicate balance – no one wants to be with the guy who bangs on about his comic book collection all night, or what a pro he is on the bench press. If in doubt, ask your date about themselves and go from there.
no 4. Don’t do all the talking
On your date, make sure you don’t do all the talking. Try to keep what you have to say short and concise. You don’t want to start boring your date! If this date goes well, there will be lots more opportunities to share your stories in
the future. Don’t be scared of pauses and help mix up the conversation by asking your date questions. Listening is important, as it shows that you are interested in her, rather than just hearing yourself speak all evening
no 5. Keep the conversation fun
Try to keep your conversation light hearted. On your first date, you don’t want to get into an in-depth conversation about why you don’t enjoy your job, or other issues you’ve been having. Women want a guy who can make them laugh. Yes you do have to be serious sometimes, but in the early stages of dating, have some fun!
no 6. Avoid the ‘ex’ conversation
Talking about your ex is dangerous territory. It’s best to stay away from the conversation altogether. Your date will not be interested and it can make things feel awkward between you. If your date does bring up the subject, try to keep answers short (without appearing suspicious)! Reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her instead.
no 7. Turn off your phone
There’s nothing more annoying than phones ringing whilst trying to spend quality time out with friends, but it’s a BIG no no whilst on a date. Don’t just put it on silent or vibration, as you can still become distracted. Turn your phone off completely. Plus, if she knows that you’ve turned your phone off to focus entirely on the date, this will definitely work in your favour.
no 8. Offer to pay
Things have shifted and most women will assume that they are paying for their share of the bill. On your first date, insist on treating her (although don’t be forceful). This will make you look like a gentleman. But, if she still wants to pay, suggest she gets the bill on your next date, if she wishes.